While surfing the interweb the other day, I came across an article entitled "Are You Ready for a Baby or Not?", needless to say it immediately caught my eye. The article listed five signs you're ready for a baby, and five signs you're not. Here they are, for your reading pleasure:
- Your Finances are Rock Solid - Don't forget to factor in child care costs or the income hit you'll take if one of you stays home.
- You Have a Support System - Friends and family are all around, and you're not ashamed to ask them for a hand. What you already know is far less important than your willingness to let others help.
- You're Ready to Sacrifice "Me Time" - The selflessness that's necessary for raising children is pretty major and life-changing—so make sure that you're cool with the idea.
- You Can Deal with Discord - When there's a disagreement, the two of you talk it over without any major explosions. It's not the absence of problems (get real), but your ability to openly and calmly deal with them that will make you fit parents.
- You've Got Questions - Asking yourselves, "What if we mess up the kid? And how bad will the sleepless nights be?" is totally valid. Make sure you're also willing to listen to each other's answers.Asking yourselves, "What if we mess up the kid? And how bad will the sleepless nights be?" is totally valid. Make sure you're also willing to listen to each other's answers.
Signs You're Not
- You Both Put Work First- Even if the future nanny's on speed dial and you both plan to continue to work full-time, some amount of change in your lives is inevitable. If one or both of you would feel burdened by this new "job," put it on hold.
- You Still Crave Freedom - If you feel depressed at the thought of giving up those spontaneous vacations and frequent dinners out, it's a signal that you need a little more time as a twosome.
- You Feel the Pressure - The only timetable for getting pregnant that matters is the one that makes sense for the two of you—not your friends or parents.
- You Want a Baby Band-Aid - You hope the baby will bring the two of you closer or distract you from problems in the relationship. In fact, it'll only amplify them.
- You're Not on the Same Page - Babies aren't a "give it a try, see if you like it" kind of deal. A disagreed-on pregnancy can potentially set up an unequal balance of responsibility and may result in animosity for both of you down the road.