I know a girl who insists that she and her significant other never fight. I don't buy it. Not for a second. ALL healthy relationships have peaks and valleys. I get it though, there is a certain amount of pressure to have the "perfect" relationship. You want everybody to think that you're rock solid, and that nothing could ever happen to your twosome. It's not reality though. Hubby and I aren't perfect and neither is our marriage. We both have moments where we aren't being the best spouse that we can be. However, we can't look to the relationships of others to gauge our own; what works for one couple probably won't work us.
|we're crazy, for real|
In the six years that we've been together, we've come to accept the ebbs, along with the flows. Marriage is a long road with many twists and unexpected turns; it's inevitable that you will have low points and high points. Actually, the ebbs make the flows that much more special, and they never last that long (or are that bad). We look inside our marriage to see what's working and what isn't, instead of getting validation from others.
So, the question is: Is there anything you can do to get out of the ebb faster, or is it just going to have to work itself out? I'm not sure, but I always try anyway. I take a page out of Hubby's book and I count my blessings in the hope that we can get our flow back sooner rather than later. I think of all the things that he does that make me happy. I think of our wedding vows, and my promise to respect him, encourage him, forgive him, and give hope to him. I gave him my love, and that is something that he will never lose, even in an ebb.